Taking care of babies can be wonderful and joyful, but there is no mistaking that it is hard work and often a major life adjustment!
There is often talk of ‘The Village’ that it takes to raise a child but the reality is that most people don’t really have this supportive village. Instead we try and create our own circles of support through family, friends, antenatal and baby groups and professional support.
Over my many years of working with and supporting families I have observed just how useful it can be to have someone to check in with along the journey of becoming a mother and finding your way through the first couple of years with each child. I’ve seen so many mothers wait until breaking point before asking for help, or to struggle through, feeling that they just need to ‘get on with it’, only to empty their reserves and find themselves depleted and struggling, whether it be in the early days, or months on when lack of sleep is taking it’s toll.
Rather than waiting for things to reach a low point before you ask for help, a regular mentoring session can help you find your way through, weathering the ups and down along the way.
Mentoring can start from pregnancy, in the early months or into the first few years.
Bryony provides such a powerful antidote to this world of people telling you what you should be doing, instead working out ways to value and build on what you already have, with practical ideas that are carefully geared to the totally unique situations that each of us face. Putting aside time to work with Bryony is I think something I’m doing both for my child and for myself as a parent, and it feels like really important work without feeling like hard work at all! – L
I signed up to mother’s mentoring sessions when I was feeling particularly lost and overwhelmed by motherhood. Bryony offered a wonderfully safe and supportive space for me to explore the many emotions and challenges of my new life. Her compassion was so healing and her vast experience in supporting parents was incredibly reassuring. Bryony helped me find the joy in motherhood; I can’t recommend the sessions highly enough. – Lizzie
Bryony’s mentoring sessions have been a brilliant source of support to me since returning to work after baby 2. She is a fantastic listener and has helped me to bring bubbles to the surface to find stillness again. They have encouraged me to reflect, slow down, retain boundaries, and to try to enjoy the moment/ rollercoaster. To catch up with myself. She has also helped me to see things from new perspectives and to convert ideas into action.- Lisa
Having a Mother’s Mentor can be a part of your support structure, your village.
The idea is simple- in many jobs, there is a need for supervision or mentoring. Why should parenting or motherhood be any different?
Parenting is work! It’s not paid work, but it is extremely valuable to the individual experience of each child and to society as a whole. What’s more, it is a 24hr job. No holidays, no sick days. And the role changes all the time!
You figure out how life works with a 4 wk old baby, but then a month later, they’re different, and so on and so forth into the future.
One of the benefits of a mentor is I provide a space that is just for you! A warm, welcoming, non judgemental and productive space without any demands on you.
So how does it work?
We meet, either online or face to face in your home once a month for an hour. We check in with how you’re doing, talk over any challenges you’re having and celebrate any triumphs. We might talk a bit about sleep or baby development, but this is primarily about supporting you. Supporting your needs, thought processes and resilience strategies. Remember that common quote about putting your own oxygen mask on before helping others? Well, as mothers and parents, we are often so intensely caught up in caring for our babies and children, often whilst juggling many other things too, that our needs can end up at the bottom of the pile.
This leads not only to feelings of frustration and overwhelm, but also compassion fatigue which isn’t helpful for the people we are caring for! Sometimes anxiety and depression can flare up. All this can leads onto feelings of guilt, frustration or not being ‘good enough’ and round and round we go. These are all common feelings around mothering, and we can be too tired to step back for a minute and figure out how to better manage, or how to nourish ourselves more so we are better able to enjoy our babies and walk the path a little steadier.
I’ve been a mother since 2002, and have been professionally supporting families since 2012. I have worked with so many different families and seen first hand how this kind of support can make a huge difference to the experience of parenting and make everything flow smoother. You can find out more about me and my work on my About Me page
Sessions are monthly and booked in blocks of 3.
Fees are on a sliding scale.
Families with an annual income below £30, 000
3 months – £135 (£45 per session -payment plans available)
Families with an annual income £30, 000- £50, 000
3 months – £225 (£75 per session)
Families with an annual income above £50, 000
3 months – £255 (£85 per session)
Sessions are available on Friday mornings and Wednesday afternoons.
Updated Sept 23 - I currently have one session becoming available on Friday mornings from November.
Please do get in touch if you would like to express an interest in future sessions and I can add you to my waiting list.